When I was afraid to approach women, I would go to places (like bars, clubs and social events) and hope that if I dressed up well enough, maybe a woman would make it really obvious that she wanted to talk to me (e.g. wave me over) or she might even approach me herself.
Back then, I didn’t know that women are completely open to being approached in social environments as long as a guy comes over in a confident, easy-going way. I thought that women didn’t want to be bothered by guys and were simply out having fun.
In the movies, a shy, nervous male character will often have a beautiful, confident and sexy female character interested in him
I’d spend most of the night just looking at the women and imagining what I could say or do to get them to have “Wow!” reaction and really like me. Some women would look my way and I would try to maintain eye contact with them or smile, but nothing would ever happen.
Eventually, when I’d had enough drinks and was feeling drunk to the point of not caring about rejection anymore, I would muster up some courage to walk over and talk to some women, only to have them reject me for being drunk or coming across as nervous or awkward with them.
In the movies, standing alone at a party usually makes the male character seem “mysterious” and a beautiful, female character will then become curious to meet him.
The woman will often be shy herself (but really beautiful and innocent) and they will go down the path of the typical movie love story, where she rejects him initially and then he gets her in the end by being a good guy and saving the day, saving her or saving the world. Continue reading Fact 2: Shyness Doesn’t Turn Women On